Whether you are newlyweds, been happily married a while, or currently going through a rough patch in your marriage, the following statement is truly true.
Arguments will happen.
Even the best of marriages will have arguments. Yes, even in your happy marriage you will have arguments.
I’m not wishing bad on your relationship. No person is perfect, right? Which means no two “persons” in a relationship are perfect.
What separates “good” marriages from “bad” marriages isn’t the absence of arguments. It’s how frequently, disrespectfully, or selfishly they happen.
Do you have the emotional intelligence needed to avoid arguing frequently? Or are you thinking that just loving each other, automatically means you and your spouse will communicate perfectly?
For over 20 years, I have closely and obsessively watched spouses communicate in marriage. Many, many failed due to lack of knowledge on the subject. I’ve also watched many succeed and observed why they succeeded.
What separates marriages that were happy marriages and got it right from the marriages that weren’t sacred marriages and got it wrong?
Jesus made communication in marriage simple, with one verse.
Mark 10:8 NASB: “And the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
When I give my workshops, have panel discussions, or counsel my clients they are absolutely amazed on how deeply Jesus’ verse quickly and simply leads to less arguments. Let this book be one of your marital aids.
Our flesh typically thinks of what the “self” wants. Not what the two “selfs” that are now in a significant spiritual union wants.
Marriage was meant to be an earthly model, of a heavenly union.
We cannot approach a Christian marriage with worldly thoughts. And, let me say this clearly and respectfully: If it is not Jesus leading your marriage, by applying his truths to your marriage, then you are leading your marriage from an earthly perspective, not a Christian perspective